Dive

Do you remember that chap, Hercule Poirot? No? Known to be quite charming with his impeccable manners, dressing, the accent and that egg-shaped head. And of course, his meticulous moustache. But that’s alright, you didn’t miss much. An absolutely intolerable chap, really. Eccentric, egocentric and a bit too prim and proper. If you ask me, go to Sherlock Holmes any day. Now, there’s my kind of guy.

But still, I have to admit, Poirot was onto something. He kept saying that answers always lie in “the little grey cells”. I agree. I am a thinking man. I like to sit down and think about anything and everything; past, present and future. I need to first anticipate a situation and then consider all the possibilities and then just sit back and……think. It doesn’t matter if I can’t come up with a solution. The fact that I have lived it in my head before it occurs outside of it, acts as something of a meta-experience, if I may coin such a word. An experience of an experience itself. 

And so I always appear to be lost in thought. Day dreaming about seemingly irrelevant things. But of course, I am still figuring this out. Surely I haven’t around long enough to be an expert. In fact, most of the time, I don’t know where I am, I don’t know where I began and I don’t know where to go from there. Every possibility leads to many possibilities and so on and so forth. Unfortunately, in the labyrinth of my mind, I am no Theseus and there is no Ariadne to help me manoeuvre my way in and out. But, the Minotaur lurks, at every wrong turn, at every evil twist of imagination.

The mind is razor sharp. Mine and yours. Only, some know it and others don’t. It is only as sharp as it thinks it is and works fastest when under pressure. Sadly, it must be taught the concept of direction and must be trained to be a vector. But the mind is not the kind of thing you can tempt with a carrot or threaten with a whip. Before you train the mind to watch where it is going, you have to train yourself to watch it. If you are able to follow your mind, you will be able to persuade it to follow you.

That is why I come here, three miles out into sea in the middle of the night, wrapped tightly in a dense fog. I see no moon and I see no sea but there is a circular patch of water marking my visibility. Only here and now, do I not mind losing my individuality. As the fog and the cold water slowly seep into me, I feel that we have interchanged states of matter. They bite, and I feel. I do not act and I do not react. I only feel, and they only bite. It is time; I remove my shirt and let them in. After a while, when they have stopped biting and we have reached our understanding, I prepare myself to think. There is nowhere else I’d rather be, there’s nothing else I’d rather do. I need to think. I need to watch myself think. As my thoughts change and dart about, they morph seamlessly and without effort. I try to catch them, I want to hold them, I need them to obey.

I breathe deeply and let myself go under gently. The water sizzles on my skin for a brief moment. Under the water, I am now awake. I can see the fog above holding on to my dream. And I can see me, waiting to be…..me. It has started.

I look down and proceed. The trick is to get as far down as your breath would allow; reserving nothing for the journey back. With every movement in descent, I go years behind. With every thrust, I explore countless worlds and timelines. As the air is sucked out of me, my mind starts to fill the emptiness with a flood of memories. So many things, all at once, I cannot feel their joy and I cannot feel their sorrow. I only watch. A mute spectator as the story unfolds.

My mind races, gathering speed with every passing moment. I struggle to keep up as ideas shoot forth in every direction, I do not know which one to grab on to. I explore as many as I can, simultaneously. The darkest corners of my mind are lit; they expose their most evil intentions. I should be scared, but I cannot bring myself to be. They are mine, after all. I see the good, I see the weird and I see a streak of the freak that lives in us all. My lungs have burst. Oh, the soothing pain. 

I begin to return and look around but sadly, there is no blood. My lungs have burst in vain. There are too many horses in my mind and they are too wild. I do not believe that the horrors of my mind do not identify me. You cannot perceive what is outside of your imagination and you can only imagine what you are capable of, a window into our soul. What we imagine may not be a part of us, but it lies in our imagination only because, it has the capability to become a part of us. Similarly, what is outside of our imagination, we may never be able to accept or identify with; but that does not mean that they do not exist.

I do not feel the need to breathe anymore. There is no pain, no burning sensation. There is no sea, no cold, no heat. There is just me and my mind. But as I slowly float to the surface, I can feel the pain returning. All at once, all the pain. I burn until I am forced to breathe in as much air as can be. I climb on to the boat and look down to say goodbye. I am back in this dream now but I will come back soon. Reality is far more alluring and I need to think, I need to watch myself think.

I start rowing back to the shore. Slowly, steadily. Every time I get back from these glimpses of reality, every time I dive out of this dream, I appreciate the silence. The glimpse of freedom. I can have it any time I want. Not for long, Not always. But, I can have it any time I want.

I have my peace.

Reach

They, do not fly, who haunt the clouds.
They, who soared, had no wing sprouts.
When the heavens call and you need to fly,
lie on the ground as you kiss the sky.

Letter to God

4th November, 2005.

Dear God,

I am not an atheist. But, I am not sure if I believe. After much thinking, I decided that it is wise to believe. Atleast, it is wiser than living as if there is no God, only to die and find out there always was. I write this letter as I have come up against a particularly complicated problem that I cannot extricate myself from. I write to you not only because of the dreadful lack of company but also because you are the ideal consultant in such matters. You have been highly recommended by my mother. Just kidding. I am not really sure what kind of humor they appreciate up there, so kindly forgive me if I miss the mark. I am trying to make the choice on my own, endeavouring to distance myself from bias and prejudice. But, from what I understand, so does everyone else with little or no success. You see, I find it hard to be as optimistic as my mother, always searching for the silver lining. She truly is one of your wonders. My father, however, thought it was a wonder you made her. He pointed it out everytime they had a conversation, which thankfully, was not too often. I'll get to the point. The problem is that I do not know if I should stay or just excuse myself. This day has presented to me, quite compelling arguments for both. Allow me to elucidate.

Today morning, my mother took my brother and me along with her to the hospital for a routine check-up. On the way back, she stopped for breakfast and fed us even though we were not really hungry. A few streets away from home, a poor old man stumbled at her feet. As soon as she helped him get up, he promptly proceeded to cough out blood. This went on for some time, and came to an end when he fainted. Now, naturally, such a situation can be rather disturbing. But she supported him on herself and began grunting her way back to the hospital carrying the weight of four people. Having the perennial luxury of a third person's point of view, I usually see everything coming. But, I did not expect this. The weak old man, who until then was as conscious as a doormat, made one swift movement. In a flash of well-practiced and acquired skill, he broke free, cut the gold chain off my mother's neck, left a neat scar on her left cheek and vanished round the corner. And so, once she had exhausted her tears, she lugged us back to the hospital.

At this moment, I must tell you more about my parents. My mother, you can guess, is what they call God-fearing down here. My father ponders over what there is to fear. Both of them are very cliched. So much so that interest in the truth wanes. She is the ever-smiling, compassionate, trusting, optimistic soul. You know the type. I have not spent enough time with my father to describe him properly, but he is nothing like her. He has a strong dislike for the concept of heaven and hell that my mother so faithfully believed. I must admit that his arguments are hard to refute. He once took the trouble of trying to convince himself and her saying,

"Let us for one moment assume the existence of heaven, ruled by God and hell, ruled by the Devil. We also consider that all evil men will be punished in hell and saints rewarded in heaven establishing the elementary fact that God supports the good and punishes evil and the Devil, otherwise. Now, why would the Devil trouble those with the very attribute that he thrives on? And if he did punish them and subject them to the known unpleasantries, he would be abiding by God's will, working for God. And THAT is not possible. Anyway, what would I do in heaven. You cannot expect me to go to a tea party and chit chat with the Pope now, can you? Agreed, I like the climate, but you know what darling, the company in hell is just so much better. Therefore, even if we were sent to hell, it would be like heaven. Get what I am saying?"

I did. God, why doesn't the bible make so much sense.

Anyway, she got her stitches done and we barely made it back home in one patched up piece. She had just washed up and made lunch when my father came in. I expected her scar to be a topic of discussion but it was not even mentioned. Something more trivial grabbed the spotlight. I did not know that peculiar red marks below the neck can be a big issue but apparently they can. My father was sporting a few of them and for some reason my mother did not approve of it. Always a man of few words, he did little in reply. He emptied his plate's contents on the person who made it and walked out of the house. She went in search of some more tears and upon finding it, promptly shed them as well. Tired of having to carry us troublesome brothers around all the time, she lied down for a nap. She had barely drifted away when my neighbour rang the bell. I quite like the boy, he's very sweet and hard-working. My mother thinks so too. They are not too well off, so whenever he comes asking for money to buy books or something, she gives him a little out of her savings. Today, she was reluctant to give him any because my brother and I are due to come out soon. This pregnancy business can be a costly affair. But, she gave in because his sister had been down with high fever for three days and he had to get something to alleviate it. By now, it was dinner time and any satisfaction my mother had gained from her benevolence had been quashed by the anticipation of my father's arrival. Preparing herself was a wise move. My father came back with six of his friends and as the company was insufficient, they dragged my complaisant mother along to the pub down the road. They were nice enough not to ignore her. They had a lot of fun at her expense. During one of the times when she squirmed and tried to look away, her eyes fell upon someone else she knew in the place. Someone, who was supposed to be at his sister's side but could not because he was restrained by all the revelry. When he saw her, the boy tripped and stumbled his way across the room to her. I assumed he was going to express his gratitude. I was right. He leaned close to her, raised his glass and said, "Thanks for everyth..thing, da..darling."

The mood at the table quickly changed from humour to that of passion. A passion for action. Recognising the need of the hour, my father, ever the man of few words, gave my mother one slap on her left cheek, which tore her stitches and one kick which sent her unconscious to the floor. Then, he dragged her to the car, dumped her inside and with dogged determination went back to complete the mission for which he came to the esteemed establishment.

Now here we are, three of us in this excuse for a car. I do not know when she will wake up, but when she does, she will go in search of some more tears. For a blow intended for my mother, fell instead upon her son, my brother. The only company I had is wasting away in front of my eyes. Thus presents itself before me, this predicament. I do not know if I should stay or leave, when I still can. Although the world itself is reason enough to stay away from it, my mother compensates more than adequately. Therefore dear lord, kindly reply at the earliest so that I can make necessary arrangements.

Thanking you,

(This is where my name is supposed to be)

P.S - How do I post this damned thing?
P.P.S - Kindly excuse the profanity.

Gotta feel, baby

It's been a while since I put a finger on the keyboard. I just did not 'feel' like it. For that matter, I do not feel like it now either. I'm supposed to be hitting the books; instead, I'm heading for the hills. So, what do I feel like now? I feel like hightailing it; take to my heels and run to the hills. So, in this utterly restless moment when I am in the process of flying the coop and I am desperately trying to bring my attempt at escapism into fruition, emotions escape me. I do not feel for anything at the moment. All my ideologies and noble concepts are taking forty winks. I am currently advising everyone to kindly refrain from discussing philosophy with me now, until and unless of course, they want to be drubbed by a very unbalanced man with a keyboard.

Phew! That feels a lot better. So, now....where were we? Yes.....unbalanced man with a keyboard. No...that's not the point. What was the point again? Ah... to feel. I find this feeling or rather, the absence of a feeling very disturbing. This is me. Short man, shorter fuse, very intense and devoid of patience are some of my better virtues. The combination, I am told can be rather difficult, but, I also happen to be highly inspired and from what I hear from those who love me, it is by all the wrong things. Therefore, one might not be incorrect in summarizing me as 'rather a hot-blooded ass, who has a rather weird-ass opinion on most things'. Such an ass cannot exist without feeling for a great many things. I grew up in a farm with the kind of asses that lauded the idealism of Marx and the intention of socialism just as we denounced the stupidity of Stalin. The worst thing that can happen to a philosopher is the successful implementation of his philosophy's mis-interpretation. Eventually, Marx refused to call himself a marxist. We asses looked up to those who were ready to give their lives for a cause, for a faith, for a belief; as long as they were sincere to it, even if it was absolutely contradictory to ours. Denounce them, fight them, but respect them. For, in the end, we don't know which ass is right until our meeting with that ass, St.Peter. We respected asses everywhere, it did not matter which farm they belonged to. We asses refused to be just another animal on just another planet and we thought the only way to establish that would be to live like Gods. To first become idealistic individuals and thereby achieve an idealistic society. And that, I am strongly led to believe, is why we asses remained just that....asses. Atleast, I believe it led to growth. We became bigger asses. Never mind.

I am moved by a great many things. Music, truth, beauty, courage, compassion and genuineness. Witnessing any event involving one or more of these, leaves a lasting impression on me. Which is why I like children. Almost every virtue, good and bad, can be found in them. That level of purity is a sight that fills me up all the time, everytime. Man, not spoilt by experience is just that: a child, an illogical, irrational ass. We'll reserve that for another time, another illogical, irrational blog. The point is, most people I know carry atleast one of these traits. Sometime back, in our favourite kind of sessions, a bitching session, we were listing down the people we hate and why. You know the gossip, the explosive type. Absolute dynamite. At last came my turn.

"Hmmm......Nobody really. Until and unless someone is positively scheming and intends to harm without reason, I cannot hold their belief against them. After all there is always their side to the argument."

"God. I don't believe you are being diplomatic now. Why do you always answer with a 'depends'? Just apply Ockham's razor and give a straight answer.", said a very disappointed friend, denied of his gossip, "Do you always have to be ambivalent?"

"Well.....Hmmm....Yes and No.", I put him down like a bedspread.

"There you go again. I don't believe this."

"Fine! There is this chap who I find very difficult to tolerate. As in, he's always out to give me trouble. But, mind you, it's only contradicting interests. In himself he's very genuine."

"So are you. You genuinely dislike him."

I gave my buddha-smile ( if I was capable of such a thing ).
All a person can do is try. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to meet my levels of tolerance, but I can atleast try. Sometimes, I feel as fake as the unicorn’s horn they sell in the market for it’s magical powers. The power is fake. And anyone who buys it, is going be faking fake bliss. But then, isn’t that what most of us do all the time?? Utopia, Aliens, World State, World Peace, Brotherhood, Unicorns, what’s the difference? Everything’s fine, all the time. Isn’t it? Feel boy, feel. But please feel, real.

I once knew a person who would pick up his guitar, clear his throat and begin. It was magical. There wouldn’t be a trace of music in either instrument or player. Yet, he’d close his eyes and sing and be immersed in it. Blessed is he. He doesn’t even need music to feel it’s bliss. The lamb who wanders and grazes without a care for the tiger is the wise one. The one’s like us who remain in the flock, realize the incompetence of the shepard, and look around for a predator, living in fear and hesitation is the fool. Ignorance is bliss. In a similar argument with such a wise person, I was told that I needed help. When I asked why, I was told, "You know, when you know that you know far more than you need to know, you know you need help."

It took me sometime to get it, but when I did, I knew that I did not need to know that.

It did not take me too long to realize that wealth is not happiness, and in the end a person only wants to be happy. Anyway, that is old philosophy, least realized but oft spoken about. But now I realized that information is not knowledge and knowledge is not intelligence. Intelligence is not wisdom and wisdom is not happiness. Therefore, how much you know will not make you happy and we have already established that how much you have will not make you happy either.

Which is where we come back to where we started. Feel. Bliss you can achieve only by feeling. So what is this feel? It’s well.... just a feeling. Intangible but it’s presence or absence is all-pervading. For me, God is just that. It’s a feeling. The concept of feel can be applied to anything. Haven’t you ever had the feeling that a person or an object is perfect in all respects but there is that something missing, something, you cannot pin-point. You know something’s missing, you just can’t say what. That quality, never quantity, is feeling. Apply it to anything. Music, an instrument, the player, bikes, cars, people, philosophy, love, sex, anything; it’s gotta have that feel. Your kind of feel. Or else it’s out. The feel, like life itself, never follows logic, its never rational. But without the feeling, life just is not the same. Without a feel for everything and everyone in your daily life, you can never be happy. Without a feel for anyone or anything, you are classified under the group titled ‘inanimate objects’. Sometimes baby, you gotta feel, just to feel alive.

Hmmm.....Time to hit the books again. God, I just don't feel like it.

The Philosophy of Cows and Cowards

Nobody passes out of school without doing a 'The Cow' essay before the 6th grade. I don't remember what was there in it ( though I can guess ), but I do remember what I thought of it.

I am a pure non-vegetarian. And I love beef. Not that I do not respect cows; I do. Like all dutiful Indians, I respect and worship the usefulness of the placid and pleasant animal. But my liking for the animal is objective and has nothing to do with religion. Therefore, I like and respect the cow most when it's on one of 3 things: the menu, the dining table or my plate. When I told my sister this, her first reaction was to refer to the animal as "poor thing". Precisement. It is because the cow is such a "poor thing", offering little or no resistance at any point of time to anything at all, that we butcher it for a host of reasons. Even worse, we keep it just about barely alive to do our menial work. As a child I believed that if it were a wild, fervent and unpredictable animal and if it could not be domesticated, then this sacred animal would not be made to live a life of infra dignitatem. So, I came to the conclusion that it was asking for it, almost inviting it and therefore deserved it.

The point being, if you're afraid to stand up for yourself, I'm afraid, you can't blame anyone for standing on top of you. After all, why live if you have to live in fear. That is, I think, how I came to hate cowards and cowardice. I think they should be butchered like cattle.

After the usual series of unfortunate and quite boring events at a party, I ended up next to a man who was intent on making conversation. Awaking the martyr in me, I proceeded, with Christ-like benevolence, to be subject to the cruelty of ( the ) man and save the other guests. I decided to listen. I'm not sure if I dreamt it, but, somewhere in his monologue, this wonder-of-god made a statement that left a look of sovereign contempt on my face. He said something to the effect of not knowing the meaning of fear. There was apparently nothing in the world that the mighty gentleman was scared of. A man cannot be fearless. Everyone has their insecurities. The mightier, the more insecure. A fearless man cannot be one without fear, it can only be one with the fear of fear. The man who cannot accept the presence of fear and insecurity in his psyche is the greatest coward of them all. Meet the fearless coward.

Sometime back, before it struck anyone else, I considered the possibility of being a coward myself. How I came about it is a long story. In short, it came with the realization that I was turning to philosophy too soon, too often. And philosophy can be a slime. There is a philosophy for every right and every wrong and everything else in between. So, no matter what the situation, there will be a philosophy to back you up; you can count on that. In the words of Camus, "Those who lack the courage, will always find a philosophy to justify it". Most of the time, people take shelter under philosophy because they are scared of being wrong. Having a philosophy to back you up increases the credibility of your opinion and your statement. Hardly anybody just states their opinion and leaves it at that; it always has to be backed up by something some "known" person said in some vague context, centuries ago. The older the saying, the more credibility it lends. Popular 'back-up' people include the father of the nation, Lincoln, Ayn Rand, so on and so forth. Therefore, for most, a quick scurry for philosophy is driven not by wisdom or deep-rooted opinions but it is driven by fear. And it is because I scurry for philosophy too soon, too often, that I fear, I might.....fear.

An incident surfaces in my memory now. It was a conversation, supposed to be a war of words, between two of my very hard working friends. The winter was at it's peak and the sun was just about to rise. The winter's peak wasn't high enough for my friend; he was far higher than that. He had just spent the entire night working his way up. The other guy had spent the entire night working his way up too, a pile of books, that is. So, when I see that a conversation is about to take place, I say my "Hi" and step aside to watch the fun. The encyclopoedia, in one of his rare moments of speech, says to my rather disinterested friend, "God. Have you been.....you know...??"
"YYYuupp....Verrry much....Verrry nice.", he manages to say and proceeds to give him a liberal dose of his breath in order to prove his proud status. Not that it needed any proving.
"Don't you have any sense of responsibility. You are so talented. Why can't you work hard and do something in life?"
I always tell people not to get sentimental when drunk or get a drunk guy sentimental. It's unmanageable. Anyways, so this statement on his productivity he takes as an attack on his manhood.
"What do you mean work hard? I work hard too. You put a night out and I put a night out. You stretch yourself to the limit and I stretch myself to the limit. In the end, they'll end up paying you for your hard work and killing me for mine. So, I will go to the same place where you will go, only a few decades earlier. So, in the lives that we lead at the moment, I am ahead of you. Therefore, who is better off comes down to a difference in opinion and a question of philosophy. So please, keep moving."
The guy decides to take his advice and I proceed to take him to his room and put him to sleep.
On the way back, I say to him, "Fundu guy. Where'd you pick that line of thought?"
"Common sense, machan. I have too much of it."
"Common sense, my friend, is the most equally distributed thing in the world. Nobody thinks they need any more of it than they already have."
"Hmmm...Karl Marx."
"Damn."
"Nice try."
After putting him to sleep, I went into further thought. What he said back then was bullshit, I know it, he knows it. But can you argue with that line of thought?? No, because, as he rightly said, it is a question of philosophy. And there is but one truly serious philosophical problem, and that is death. Judging whether life is or is not worth living amounts to answering the fundamental question of philosophy. Man is but just another animal on just another planet. Take man away from the equation and there is no difference. In fact, everything else on the planet is better off without us. When the importance of the existence of man itself is doubtful and arguable; what about the importance of one life?
"I know why you are here. Shoot, Coward. You are only going to kill a man." Forever Guevara.

Philosophy is for the self and therefore as unique as the individual. Being taught philosophy in a classroom will not help, neither will teaching, preaching, reading or discussing it. The problem these days is that there are too many teachers of philosophy and therefore, hardly any philosophers. Your philosophy is for you to nurture and savour. A person's philosophy is for him and him alone. Never try to associate with another person's philosophy, for your understanding of it will be miles from his. Philosophy provides neither shelter nor direction. Philosophy does not give you an understanding of the world . Your understanding of the world constitutes your philosophy.

Bears and scares

A beard is a nice fluid asset to have. It can make one look shabby or dignified; primitive or super-cool. It gives shelter to those pearly pimples or scary scars and acts as a canopy for pallid skin. So, I’ve decided to grow my beard. And I’m quite happy about it. Not that it makes me look any better; in fact, the ladies have been quite fierce in convincing me otherwise. But they don’t understand. It’s not about looking better or worse, it’s just about looking different. Now I know I’m growing old; I tire easily. I’m tired of looking into the same face every morning. It really scares me. You see, if I can’t put up with my own face for a prolonged period of time, how am I going to get married? [Relationships are ok; you can take your breaks after all] And I can’t ask my wife to grow a beard, can I?....No.....Good lord. Definitely no!! That doesn’t worry me too much; there’s time and I’m confident I can work something out.

Of course, facial hair does have its disadvantages. If shaped well with creativity and care, it is possible that the person might look a lot better; there’s hope. There may be a few minor exceptions to the rule. On women for example, somehow, I don’t think there’s much hope, unless of course the design is simply ingenious and her face exudes tremendous creativity. It might help if such a woman is seen at the circus. One, I’m sure, will be able to appreciate the art a lot better then.

I’m a jittery sort of person, never calm or composed, and very uncomfortable in the presence of women. Small things and passing thoughts frighten me effortlessly. I’m scared now; I just happened to grab on to one of those stray lines of thought and now I’m off track and stuck in parlous waters. How do you know if your girl isn’t one of those hirsute characters and lusus naturae, before it’s too late to get out of the bed, out of the house and out of the goddamned country? We men are at least more open about things. We don’t pull them out at their roots so that it doesn’t leave a trace. And if we shave, we don’t mind talking about it. It’s never bad manners to ask a man if he removed his facial hair. And hey, we don’t get embarrassed. You know how it is. On the wedding day, clear, resplendent skin; one week later, you’re in the Amazon.

Never mind. So, the other day, my friend and I saw this girl.
And he says, “Hey! Check that out. Good looking eh?”
I maintain this dark, contemplative silence.
“Why doctor? Do you not concur?”
“She looks good.”
“So you agree. She’s good looking.”
What do I say. “Yeah…whatever.” Some people just don’t understand subtle concepts. Yup. She can kill with a smile and wound with her eyes and all that, but it does not mean she’s good looking. The charm that second glances held for me earlier has become hoary. I sprain my neck almost every other day taking second glances. A woman who looks good merits a second glance and I see such women many times a day, every day. So, in those exiguous times when I actually realize that the woman not only looks good but she’s also good looking, I am inclined to be stuck in that second glance for an extended period of time. This remains so, until a benevolent passer-by wakes me up, helps me pick up my jaw from the ground and puts it back in place.

It’s a pity there aren’t too many of those women around. One cannot escape observing oneself. If someone is looking at you, then you obviously have to observe yourself; and if no one is observing you, then you have to observe yourself even more. Kafka said something along the same lines but in a rather different context. Sometime back, I asked a looking-good person I knew, why does everyone want to look good? “To feel good about themselves, of course”, she says. Then I wonder, why is it that they want to feel good about themselves only in public? At home, anything and everything that fits or doesn’t fit goes. So then I’m told that it is a confidence building measure. One, somehow, feels a lot more confident about oneself if they’re dressed well and neat. Oops! I’m corrected again. It’s not just about dressing well or dressing neatly; it’s also about looking attractive or looking sexy. Ah! Comprendo. So, now I understand that one dresses not just to feel good about themselves but also to make other people feel other things by looking at them. Being attractive means being able to draw others towards oneself. Therefore, when the goal is to be attractive, it is to………So, when I meet a person who’s taken a lot of effort in looking good, I make it point to tell them “Hey. You’re looking good today.” It’s considered one of the best compliments a person can receive.

That’s when I go into one of those vague thinking moods. So, they’re looking good today. But, what about tomorrow? I just gave a compliment and God knows I meant it. But does God know who I just complimented? Definitely not the person. The appearance? Probably. The choice of palliament? Possibly. The apparel and it’s accessories? Definitely. And therefore, I could never understand how the compliment could be taken personally.

I’m definitely going to grow a beard. It doesn’t matter if I don’t look good with it. Hell, it doesn’t matter if women can’t stand it. I’m not going to let my confidence hang on for dear life to my appearance. I’m not going to change my looks to suit every one else’s likes. I don’t want and I undoubtedly don’t have the need to attract.

[ Weekend’s coming up. Hmmm……must look pleasing. ]